I think we may disagree on the definition of love.
Why would love be without criticism? You can love someone and want to support them by helping them achieve their goals. Without your love being conditional on anything, without it being the carrot in some kind of unpleasant game. Unconditional love is the opposite of breaking up with someone because they gained 10 pounds.
You can also love someone and be unable to tolerate what they're doing because you love them. I don't think of love as a commitment to supporting someone or having sex with them or living with them or even talking to them regularly (in extreme cases). It's just a statement of an emotion which can be one-sided if it needs to be.
In some ways, I think the human capacity for coping with stress is much like our immune system: in the absence of something to do, it assumes its detection mechanism is broken and zooms in on ever more harmless stimuli. This would make anxiety over first world problems the equivalent of pollen allergies. This, however, is so spot-on.
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Date: 2011-08-07 09:55 pm (UTC)Why would love be without criticism? You can love someone and want to support them by helping them achieve their goals. Without your love being conditional on anything, without it being the carrot in some kind of unpleasant game. Unconditional love is the opposite of breaking up with someone because they gained 10 pounds.
You can also love someone and be unable to tolerate what they're doing because you love them. I don't think of love as a commitment to supporting someone or having sex with them or living with them or even talking to them regularly (in extreme cases). It's just a statement of an emotion which can be one-sided if it needs to be.
In some ways, I think the human capacity for coping with stress is much like our immune system: in the absence of something to do, it assumes its detection mechanism is broken and zooms in on ever more harmless stimuli. This would make anxiety over first world problems the equivalent of pollen allergies.
This, however, is so spot-on.